Divorce does not have to be the dreaded experience it is frequently thought of. Divorce does not have to be a bad word. There is such an experience as a "good divorce". The key is how the people involved treat each other throughout the process. Patience and good judgment are required for a "good divorce" and a healthy family. In a "good divorce" both parties must be willing to compromise, cooperate, and work together to produce the best possible outcome for their family. In a "good divorce" neither party gets everything she/he wants. A couple who is prepared and willing to work hard and actively participate in their own divorce at every step along the way can achieve a "good divorce". It is really important for a couple considering a divorce to be aware of the impact the way they treat each other during this difficult time does have on their family.

Rather than looking to assess blame and remaining stuck in the past, I help a client see a better future through creative problem solving. When children are involved in a divorce, the focus is best placed on them. Children want and need to keep their relationships with each parent. "Conflict" hurts children. Children of all ages need appropriate, not angry, information to help them cope with their parents' divorce and manage their own thoughts and feelings. Both during and after a divorce, a couple, especially if they are parents, do not have to be "friends". Being considerate, civil, and businesslike to each other is more realistic.

Something To Think About

Every legal dispute is a personal matter. There is no single solution or "right answer" for every case. And yet, there are certain things each party can do to produce the best possible outcome in any case.

  • Listen to the other side.
  • Conduct yourself in an ethical way.
  • Treat the other side with respect.
  • Keep your promises and follow through.
  • Focus on the future.
  • If children are involved, put their needs first.


  • St. Louis University, J.D., 1974
  • University of Missouri, B.S. B.A., 1970



To Gary Soule,

I have been a client of Gary Soule for over 2 years and in that time I have been more than satisfied at the way my case has been handled not only by Gary but each person that I am in contact with at the firm.  Aside from giving my case the proper attention it needs to yield the great results that we have gotten so far, I feel Gary truly cares about his clients.  I have hired other attorneys before and never got the results or the personal attention of which my case needed.  On many occasions he has given me advice or shared his expertise on other matters that are going on in my life that could affect my case.  I am an out of state client and my last trip to St. Louis, he even took time out of his busy schedule to meet my son, the center of my case and socialize with us over lunch.  Using Gary makes me feel like I am using a firm around the corner from my home.  Trust me when I say there is no long distance relationship here.



Representing Dad to resolve visitation issues after Paternity Case concluded.  Enforcement of Judgment.